to Life Matters Radio National 28th October2002

The Can't-Get-Happy man's struggle

He grieves his loss of a life-time plan;her death has caused his grief, but more importantly it has annihilated the plan
He replaced it with struggle. He says so when he avoided his child's doctor's advice

Physical needs re-emerge
The Simpsons, America's analyst-cartoon, shows a character, re-married, refusing to allow the imprint of his 
first wife's body on the bed to be disturbed by anyone, including his new wife
That's OK for him, he is entitled to play out his grief in any way he desires, 
but for her it is untenable. Not only that, it is an unreasonable ask
She can never, in the end, have his pain
She wants a life, her life

He may consider a different way of expressing and reducing his grief....he is obviously a good writer;
he not only could write, he does!
In this way he can continue to benefit from exposure of his ideas to acknowledgements

On the other hand, having chosen struggle and succeeded, he may now wish to struggle. 
She's too perfect, and living, to be a decent struggle!

No happy-ever-after here


"Happiness is a whole lot easier, if you can have it! "oldshoe.biz

"Choose not to struggle 
  and you will be better equipped for surprise visits" oldshoe.biz

"to live to gain the admiration of the world is to struggle
 to struggle is just to live" oldshoe.biz
 
Hope this helps

PS
to your good doctor:
to be separated from the woman/women who bore your children is impossible
perhaps he could talk to someone

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